Why is it we women are so hard on ourselves?
I’ve always had a thing about my hips. Or not exactly my hips, but that region where my legs meet the rest of me that I like to refer to as the buthigh. That’s never been my favorite body part.
I don’t have much up top, but I always have a gap in my waist band. If I was so inclined to describe myself as a piece of fruit, pear would be the one.
But I think the time has come to just let it go. I’ve wasted enough hours worrying over the size of my hips. When I look back at old photos of myself, I realize that I didn’t appreciate my twenty something body nearly enough. Not that I was ever super model material, but I definitely focused on my perceived flaws and missed the good stuff.
And really, life is too short for that nonsense.
I’m going to work on focusing on the positive things. I’m proud that I’m at my pre-baby weight. I feel healthy. I’m getting a decent amount of sleep these days. So what if my hips will always be bigger than a models?
The end result of all this soul searching is that I sported my first pair of skinny jeans this weekend. And I liked it!
I swore I would never, ever wear skinny jeans. I thought they would make my hips look the size of Texas. I thought they were all wrong for my body type. But I kind of forget how forgiving sketchy denim is. I don’t actually think they look too bad once they were actually on.
I also kind of forget how fun it is to wear tall boots. The boots were definitely part of the motivation to try the skinny jeans.
Even when both children are screaming in the middle of grocery store and the situation is totally out of control, you still kind of feel like a bad ass if you’re wearing tall boots. Or at least I do. (Let me keep my delusions if this is just me, I need the boast these days with my wild 4.5 and the little one about to hit 2.)
I’m not sure why, but I really do feel so much better on a bad day when I put on an outfit I feel good in. I guess it’s a bit like faking it until you make it, but it really does help me channel the right mood to get through a rough day. I can at least look the part and then maybe I can act the part. I certainly don’t feel at the top of my game when my hair is in a greasily pony-tail and I’m in baggy sweat pants.
So long live the skinny jeans! To hell with the hipless model in the magazines. My boots are going to walk all over your stereotypes. Okay, maybe that’s a bit too sweeping and melodramatic, but I am going to wear my boots and feel good while I'm doing it.
16 comments:
You go girl!! I think models are too skinny and curves are much better. I would love to lose my gut but trying to love the skin I'm in and be healthy! Rock the skinny jeans and boots!!
Skinny is not a word that can ever be used to describe me. lol
LOVE this post!! I am just like you but I am scared of skinny jeans!! Maybe after reading this I will try them out...Love the confidence you get from an awesome outfit, it's true, it can totally make your day :)
To be honest men (or at least real men) find big hips attractive. It's genetic. I say this as a man. I have a penis, I'm bound to say something stupid. But, an hourglass figure is never a bad thing. Even pearshaped isn't so bad :P (though I guess it depends on the size of the hips).
This is such an awesome post. I feel that same way. Why do I struggle to be something or someone I am not. I am just going to be me.
Good for you for rocking the jeans and the boots! I agree that feeling like a badass makes you a badass so you go girl!
Good for you. I say we need to love the body we have. It will run you crazy if you don't.
Have a terrific day. :)
boots and skinny leg jeans do the same for thing... make me feel ten foot tall and bullet proof...
You go girl!!
Good for you! I never wear skinny jeans or boots. The jeans because I have the skinniest legs ever and look sort of like a chicken in them and boots because I'm short. They never hit quite right.
I like skinny jeans but I do wish they were more comfortable! Long live the yoga pants! ;-)
I completely love skinny jeans, and since I'm short, they've always looked better on me than a wider leg. I also love boots with them!
I'm an apple when it comes to body type. The waist is always tight but the thighs and legs are swimming in the pant legs. Like you I wish I had focused on the positive when I was younger but such is life. Hindsight is 20/20 :)
So enjoy your skinny jeans!
i feel like the body type of a baked potato balancing on toothpicks.
but i dig skinny jeans just because boots make me feel badass.
A very well written post and it addresses an issue many women have worried about... it is the same with me... I used to worry about my weight, size of hips and my rear end... my husband always said that those women modeling are not really attractive because they do not have curves and the must be this way in order for all clothes to fit them and also so that they will not take away the attention from the clothes they were modeling... so that the focus of the audience is on the artistic creation of the designer... so there you have it.. men like curves... and hips are a woman's center point... I am sure you are very beautiful... so go celebrate your 'womanness'...
I've never been skinny and I'm OK with that. It would be nice to drop a few pounds though. So happy for you being where you want to be!
Sandy
As much of a pain in the butt it is, I always try to start my day off with a shower and at least good fitting jeans and top. Not because I want to look good at school drop off but because it makes me feel good, even when I wake up feeling like total crap. Depending on what I have on the schedule, I'll come right home and change into workout clothes or old ones for cleaning ... but a good, confident start to the day is essential. Fake it till you make it for sure.
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