Lately, I find myself declining invitations because they seem like too much work or I’m too tired. And that is definitely not good. You’ll miss out on all the good stuff with that kind of mindset. I’ve also been saying no too often to the kiddos. Obviously, there are definitely times when the answer has to be “no” (like the continual request for cookies for breakfast and wanting to play swords with butter knives), but I could certainly say yes more than I do. Usually saying “yes” takes more energy or makes a bigger mess, but I suspect that’s the stuff that makes the best memories.
After thinking about it, I realized that the trick is to learn when to say no so that you have the energy to say yes to the important stuff. I have yet to master this one . Even as I’m saying no to all kinds of fun stuff, I end up saying yes to all sorts of obligations. I find myself agreeing too often to volunteering, donating and to doing too many work projects. Then I end up exhausted and end up saying no to the stuff I really care about. Sometimes it’s hard for me to accept that I only have a finite amount of energy.
I get asked to volunteer and donate so often that it’s kind of crazy. And I’m happy to do my fair share (as much as I pretend to be a slacker mom, I really not). But it’s easy for all the little requests to swallow up half your day. If you’re a SAHM type and you tried to say yes to everything people ask you to do, you’d end up losing your mind (or at least I do…).
So what I really want to do this year is work on that elusive balance of yes and no. I want to say yes to my kiddos as often as possible. More fun, more silliness, more playing, more trips to the park. (For the record, this does not mean I will buy them more stuff. It’s still no in the toy store.) I’d like to happily accept the fun invites and work on politely declining the other ones. I’m working on figuring out which volunteer projects I’d really like to do and which ones I should pass on. I’d like to say no more often so that I’m able to say yes when I really want to, if that makes any sense.
I think it’s going to be a good year. Happy 2012 everyone.